Ordinary talk feels spontaneous, but it is astonishingly ordered: overwhelmingly one person speaks at a time, gaps are brief, and speaker change recurs. Sacks, Schegloff, and Jefferson showed this order comes from a shared turn-taking system every fluent speaker uses without noticing.
If conversation runs on a system, then entering it is not rudeness or luck. It is a skill of reading the system and moving with it.
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